Success/Failure
I was asked recently what would I tell young threes who are just learning the enneagram. There is so much that is pertinent that it would take several pages. But limited to a few paragraphs, then I would encourage them to give up their identification with success or failure. You are not valuable when you succeed and your value does not go away when you fail. You are a divine human being who has value that is separate from your competencies, skills or successes. This is anathema to a three. If you cannot separate yourself from your achievements then you will not believe that you are worthy of love. You are not loved because you are worthy but rather you have intrinsic value as a human being.
Threes would also do well to exchange doing for being. If we are producing, then we think we are more valuable. If not producing then we are developing skills that help us to produce. I have never met a 3 that didn’t have multiple skills. Academics, arts, scholarship, athletics, business, or professions will do for a 3. They just want to be better than others at these thing. Value, according to a 3, is hierarchal based on achievement. If a 3 could enjoy an activity alone, noncompetitively and without comparison that would be a very healthy 3 indeed. If a 3 could enjoy time alone not even in activity that would be impressive.
I welcome all 3’s to the enneagram and hope that they absorb the understanding that is available to them. Maybe they can learn to live and love, separate from their remarkable achievements. Steve Purdom
Steve PurdomWelcome to Enneagram Las Vegas!
Helen Palmer
I recently taught a panel method class in Las Vegas that highlights interviews of the 9 types on stage. I was thoroughly impressed by the speaker's self-awareness and their generosity in describing their subjective reality to an audience of people who see the world differently. Sometimes an audience leans into a program and their eagerness to learn permeates the room. There's extra buzz, lots of interaction and anticipation that you can feel when people want to learn more.
I met a boatfull of Las Vegas diversity - performers, newcomers, old time Enneagram buffs and spiritual directors. Plus Steve's solid board of 9 directors (1 of each Type) who will guide Enneagram learning in Las Vegas.
Helen Palmer, Author of 5 books in the field of human consciousness 2 on the Enneagram topic are International best sellers now in 30 translations
IEA Founder Jerry Wagner, Ph.D.
I have enjoyed very much working with the Enneagram Las Vegas Board and with the ELV community. This is a very welcoming group of people who are committed to their own growth and to supporting others' growth. It's heartening to see this kind of interest in the Enneagram and in human potential. A special thanks to Steve Purdom for inviting and hosting me and for making all this possible.
-Jerry Wagner, Ph.D.
One - The ReformerFocuses upon eliminating imperfection as a way of being affirmed and respected while being responsible and hard working. Ones are conscientious and ethical with a strong sense of right and wrong. They are principled, purposeful and self-controlled. Ones are afraid of making mistakes.
Three - The AchieverFocuses upon achievement, their image, what they produce and upon success. The three is focused on success at any cost. They measure their value based on their achievements. They will do what ever it takes to be valedictorian in high school or CEO at work.
Five - The InvestigatorFocuses upon observing and thinking as a way of ensuring an emotional separation from others and relationship. The Five's focus centers around wisdom. Fives value wisdom and aim to gather as much of it as they can, so naturally they will sit back and observe a situation rather than participating in it.
Seven - The EnthusiastFocuses upon future plans and pleasant possibilities as a way of escaping the limitations of boredom and pain. The Seven approaches life through the joyful perspective. Sevens are highly enthusiastic, optimistic, playful, practical individuals. Sevens are very curious about life and all the joys that it brings.
Nine - The PeacemakerFocuses upon avoiding conflict by accepting the wishes of others and forgetting their own point of view. Nines are easygoing, receptive, reassuring, agreeable and complacent. They are trusting, accepting, and stable. They can also be too willing to go along with others to keep the peace.
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Two - The HelperFocuses upon approval of others by meeting their needs and becoming indispensable. Enneagram type 2 is the most heart felt of all the types. They are loving, nurturing and caring individuals. They can anticipate others needs and move towards them to meet those needs.
Four - The IndividualistFocuses upon being creative, artistic and unique as a way of feeling special and elite. Type four is the bohemian of the enneagram world. They are artistic, creative and internally focused. They value understanding and being understood. They love romanticism and frequently lead dramatic lives.
Six - The LoyalistFocuses upon watching for the hidden motives of others as a way of ensuring their safety and security. The Six is focused around loyalty. Sixes value commitment, fidelity, faith and responsibility. A Six will not hesitate to go down with the ship, as they believe it is their duty
Eight - The ChallengerFocuses upon power and control over their immediate environment, relationships and personal possessions. The focus of awareness for an eight is a preoccupation with power, dominance and control. They are concerned with strength and protecting the weak.
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I am fearfully and wonderfully made!
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My sister finally figured out that she is a 1! All of a sudden, everything makes sense! What a relief to be able to see and understand patterns and behaviors. It's as if a veil has been lifted and new glasses have been put on. It's wonderful.
76 days ago
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The Jerry Wagner Workshop on Spirituality and Personality was AWESOME!! I love that after studying the Enneagram all these years, I am still excitedly learning something new! Good stuff!
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OK... Question... so,...what point do we think Santa is??? 1: He does decide who's naughty or nice. 2: He's such a giver. 3: Gets it all done every year in one night. 4: Well, there is no one else like him. 5: He is watching you all year long. 6: He's dedicated to the job. 7: Has a sense of humor, HoHoHo! 8: A big guy that commands a team of elves to do all the work. 9: He reminds us about havi
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